Guest Post: Tossing Perfectionism Out the Window

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For someone that loves to create, has a passion for creativity, perfectionism can quite literally stop you before you ever begin. I know this because in my 30s I couldn’t even color without extreme anxiety. That is when I discovered I had a problem. Before that I thought I would procrastinate because I had a lazy bone, at least that is what I was often told. I think a lot of us creative types were told such things and mostly because we were misunderstood.
I discovered I procrastinated because I was afraid of not getting it perfect, whatever “it” was. I didn’t even realize that was what was happening. What I did know was that every time I tried to do something new, or creative in particular, I would get butterflies in my belly that turned to boulders, shortness of breath, and down right cranky.
Luckily a close friend set me on the path to healing by suggesting I color a whole page in the coloring book by closing my eyes, picking a crayon, and putting my finger down on the page. I colored the whole page that way. It took me, and having to be perfect, out of the equation. It was the luck of the draw what color anything was going to be on the page and it didn’t even matter. Yes it was quite fantastical by the time I was finished but it only made me laugh.
I would like to say that I was able to hurdle tall buildings of creativity after that but it was a long process and many years later before I could begin my writing journey and deeper still before I let loose with my passion for poetry.
Remember, if you feel like your insides are being pulled outside when you want to do something creative, be kind to yourself, allow yourself to make mistakes, make them on purpose even, and tell yourself it is okay!

Wild Woman Waking

Tui Snider and I combined our talents for our book, Wild Woman Waking. With Tui’s artistic photography mixed with my poetic ramblings we created a unique journey indeed.

Description on Amazon

What part of you have you suppressed, keeping it buried so deep inside that you almost forgot what is most important to you? Almost. As you read the poetic ramblings something stirs inside, your foot starts to tap, and you can hardly sit still. Maybe you turn on some music and dance into this new feeling, moving your hips as thoughts roam your head.

 From Wild Woman Waking:

“broken smiles surrounding you
listening to ghostly secrets
desires of the heart
prisoner to your life
woman wake up and dance”

You grab your notebook and pen and begin to write. You realize you can’t sit still anymore because your eyes are wide open. Wild Woman Waking will have you looking at things differently and hopefully taking action for yourself.

Wild Woman Waking: “Sleeping isn’t possible once you explore the inner and outer world of poetry; transformation happens and your eyes open wide.”

If you grew up trying to be what other’s wanted and never sure who you really were or are, now you can choose to live and embrace your inner wild woman and maybe you will be inspired to write poetry of your own! Check out Wild Woman Waking!

This is a blog hop!

From March 10th through March 22nd there will be a blogger interviewing, reviewing, and guest posting for Wild Woman Waking! Every one of these women are amazing in their own right! I can’t help but smile and feel such admiration when looking at all of their lovely faces! Check them out and spread the word of the fun happening here and there!

Bio:

Morgan Dragonwillow is a shadow poet and recovering perfectionist that strives to inspire other poets and writers. She especially enjoys helping those that have had trouble letting go of the fear holding back their words from landing on the page. It thrills her to her marrow when her words inspire someone to write; it is one of her greatest joys. Morgan released her first poetry book, Dancing within Shadow, in March 2013. She is intimate with shadow and dances into the heart of it. She believes that diving into what most people try to avoid makes great fertilizer for all types of creativity, especially writing and poetry. She writes poetry to be able to say things, feel things that she can’t seem to express or feel anywhere else. Morgan lives in Marietta Ga. with her partner, their Pekinese, and their long haired Tabby. She loves creating of all kinds but words are her passion. You can connect with Morgan from the links below. Morgan Dragonwillow’s Amazon author page 

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Tui Snider is a freelance writer and travel blogger specializing in offbeat sites, overlooked history, cultural traditions, and quirky travel destinations. Her articles and photos have appeared in BMIbaby, easyJet, Wizzit, Click, Ling, PlanetEye Traveler, iStopover, SkyEurope, and North Texas Farm and Ranch magazines, among others. She also wrote the shopping chapter for the “Time Out Naples: Capri, Sorrento, and the Amalfi Coast 2010” travel guidebook. Unexpected Texas is her first book. For Tui, travel is a mindset. Her motto is “Even home is a travel destination,” and she believes that “The world is only boring if you take everyone else’s word for it.” She has worn a lot of hats in her life – literally – and is especially fond of berets. Her first book, “Unexpected Texas” is a guide to offbeat and overlooked places within easy reach of the Dallas – Fort Worth region of North Texas. You can find Tui all around the web.
 
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Prizes! We have prizes for you as a thank you for participating! I will be giving away personal poems, soul messages (you can read one here), a $25 Amazon gift card and paperback copies (which aren’t for sale yet) of Wild Woman Waking! The Winners will be announced on Monday, March 24th, 2014. Enter for your chance to win!

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The Dreamer

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original artwork from a lesson in Life Book 2014 with Tamara Laporte

She lives in a cage of her own creation
Born out of the spotlight and
Chained to a global identity
Her dreams are plucked from
The rainbow garden.
Melody and harmony flow thru her veins
To her cello heart that quickens
In anticipation of the imaginative storm.